Welcome

Entitled as this as we need to go towards a goal . .
Making Naturally Better Babies

So begins a series of Gentling Way discussions – initially from those of us who are working on this interface, as they can’t not do teh work – it always calls us back..
Time and again I walk away – only to return.
So needed.

Be prepared for shocks – and get yourself ready . .
Often we are shed upon – no idea what will drop into the ethers – and our laps and our spaces.

US being upset is not helpful.

I thank Maja for being able to hold it together while we did this.

Please copal and lustre bowl yourself – this is raw.

When in bio medicine – we are looking at ‘conditions’.

But really it is ignorance.
No farmer would be this stupid (medical fail) – need to follow life.
We see this played out in our own lives and those of those who seek care after the event.
Time to Rise Up folks!!!

Synopsis

This is an example of a typical person I see – maybe others do not – there is a lot of tricky/complicated out there and we can shut down/compartmentalize – but maternity and being woman does not let this happen so well.

How I do the work – modeled to you as we are in remote mode – and most do not get to see me working.

Process of this set of ‘chapters’

1 – Please look after yourself listening to this.
2 – Read through what is where down below.

Print the forms – especially this new one . .
Health Matters

3 – Listen to the story on video.

4 – Fill in the sheets as you go.

Intentions and expectations

Landscape case story

After we have gone through what we could have done – had we been there.
And as you will see – others need this.
We will repeat this with a few cases.

We can provide them ‘in house’ as we alone both have PhD’s in maternal survival.

Print and fill these out. (repeat)

Intentions and expectations

Landscape case story

Once I return to this episode I will have done up a sheet of the events and what we as Gentling Way practitioners could do . .At each step. Then what all moves are to do – a very different way of teaching tutorials all online as we are . .
Separated for now – you can’t watch me work – so we do it this way.

Start a file
These need filling in – they are draft – we start all journeys with the first step. .

PRECIS You will find within this ‘chapter’ .. warnings . . get lustre bowl and copal ready.

Stress++++
Lack of support
‘Care’ only in extremis – like car broken down on side of road.
Hyperemesis
Twin pregnancy – told baby #1 in trouble (no guidance at all)

Excess fluid
Baby died.
Skin reaction (liver shutting down) mismanaged and created more drama.

Eventual toxemia and C section not managed well.
Mum survived.
With a wound from accidental burning in scar

Baby OK . .
Mum – fantastic job of keeping it all together .
Breastfed til a year of age.
Born 31 weeks 4 days 1065gm

Story begins ..

Context .. accidental pregnancy – no ‘preparation’.

Early diet . .

Lots of meat and veggies – not fresh . .
‘Keeping up with the boys’ – alcohol

Very bad nausea – 6/7 weeks
Went home to NZ . .
Ultrasound 12 weeks – twins and one had a problem – 2 not 3 vessels.
5.30 – untrue anyway.
14/15 weeks came back to FNQ
20 week check up – extremely big, polyhydramnios
Flew to T/V overnight bag – there for months.
8.00 – funding self?
Not getting well . . .
3 litres excess in utero
9.00 – fluid story
10.30 – how did it feel?
11 – went into labour 23 weeks . . ?
11.23 – stopped labour – steroids
12.30 – baby died – 2am woke and knew that she was dying . .
13.00 – Babies’ dad did not believe her . .
14.00 – very, very itchy – was to get to as close to full term. .
14.53 – no suggestions on self help . . blisters in between fingers and feet and belly . .
15.25 – told scabies. .
16.00 – painted toxic medication – on fire
17.00 – in a COLD shower several hours, sedated, knocked out
17.34 – herpes gravidarum – liver shut done. Huge salt bath – and steroids
18.30 – managed salt baths, steroids – but labour
18.50 – only time she felt hungry and ate . +++roast – Hyperemsis
19.50 – very bad headache – diarrhorea, in labour
20.40 – full on toxaemia, 19 second between contractions – and no one calling the C section she was supposed to have and retired ob. did not come in till nurse screamed at him to do so.
21.40 – several nurses to hold her down: the contractions too close together – awake for baby’s birth.
22.10 – Brodie stuck under rib cage, and Isabelle – not known what was happening – noise of C section is quite load – and very rough . .

BIRTH and DEATH

23 -00 – 1067 gms – 2lb 13oz.
23.30 – what happened? At /around the body
24.10 – watched outside her body – stabilising temp ad BP tricky.
24.20 – Mum coming?
25.56 – recalls awakening with a nurse ‘trying to express milk from me’.
26.40 – lost blood – one bag of blood. Told was o be on BP meds all life
27.40 – Mum gave her a potassium supplement every morning
27.50 – lots of milk made.
28.30 – +++ cholostrum – and S26 first week.
29.00 – took her home at just under 5 lb – amazing nurses.
29.56 – ‘How was your body?’ Always tired – lost all baby weight – ate well .
30.30 – feeding, feeding, feeding continued to bleed – home for 3 months – and doctor all said – wait and see later. Retained placenta – a few infections prior and went into hospital for D&C.
32.00 – woman in bed next to her – had put her baby on her breast for her.
32.40 – left the man – b/f her for a year – lost milk due to stress – onto goat’s milk.
Was she well? Reflux, .
34.00 – grief missing sister cry.
34.20 – What happened to Isabelle? Funeral – had to take bub body home in 4 WD – and her on ice and drove all way home – expressed milk for her kitten and having no baby in arms. One dead – and one in hospital.

Baby too soon NEW PAGE and Preterm births NEW PAGE

36.00 – START AGAIN – this time as the practitioner

Maja.

Now a Gentling Way worker – what would you do?

Person presenting – at 20 y.o – 6/7 weeks – vomiting – not happy – what to do?

37.00 – calm her down – SLQR – talk about diet and what eating??
38 00 – (Told it was ‘all in her head’).
Also felt so much shame – being pregnant so young
38.40 – emotional did not help the physiological
39.00 – checking temp of belly – is here cold there? Sacral moxa fan . .
39.50 – craving anything?
40.00 – 12 weeks twins and something wrong.
41.00 – living at his parent’s house
What would you have done? – for that person.. .

Calm and ingredients .

(And hyperemesis). NEW PAGE
Could you sleep – because? – Not comfy – why not?
Pain in back? No sciatica. . (21years old)

COLD – no one’s friend .NEW PAGE

Back pain in pregnancy NEW PAGE Structural pain in pregnancy NEW PAGE

43.00 – What would you do – back sacral fan, SLQR and all in WDCD
43.50 – And Vit D andiodine – so important – ingredients and circulation
44.45 – pubic symphysis pain – No sex – after extra fluid out . .
45.10 – Why did Isabelle die? Autopsy? Did not give permission but they did anymore – Dr thought the aorta and ventricles were upside down – but the only result out of autopsy – was hole in heart. . (This is a 800 gm baby dead for 7 ish weeks. .)
47.00 – How could they have said so?
47.40 – Never knew the truth of what happened. . very shocked at the state of her body – then her own near death experience. Then – she had been cut everywhere.
48.40 – Tiny
49.10 – Why polyhydramnios – why?
50.00 – Baby OK – but – (my story of Yvonne’s home birth rescue).
51.17 – Fix the reason why it is going on .. Eg Isabelle – needed more blood flow into the placenta worked better.
52.30 –Want all to win if we can.
52.50 –Told for bed rest 2 days -that is all . .
53.30 – what would you tell someone like this . .mid pregnancy – what are you going to make sure she is doing?
Calm . . life stressors need undoing . .ingredients – very important
54.50 – teach dads to do homework – from WDCD
55.50 – 1:1 correlation between – men doing it and them having a great life afterwards.
56.45 – what could have happened. .
57.30 – Refer out
And calm them – ingredients and all WDCD moves.
58.00 – Back pain magic 3.

Cholestasis NEW PAGE

Pre eclampsia NEW PAGE

58.10 – Hot feet?
59.00 – Hair loss – hands-ful every day
59.40 – what would you do about ITCHY?

1.00.00 – truly believe what I do – helps them stay – mothering .. tending
1.01.00 – Dead baby – liver shutting down and a bit of blood poisoning?

1.02.00 – packed in cold and ??how much water – no money to spend on coca cola.
1.02.30 – not looked after – at home all day – dead baby, can’t sleep, in pain, worried about live baby – self poisoned – and still vomiting all the time – and got hungry . .
1.03.22 – then into labour – headache – toxaemia.

1.04.00 – no magnesium – where was the C section . .Nurses were asking .
1.05.10 – if going to see a woman after all of that has happened – kid in hospital and kid in hospital – Blood energy – to keep sane and sleeping and lactating.
1.06.20 – naked /joey care – let her nuzzle around – then straight onto the pump – then elderly nurse said to her mum – get a pint of Guinness in the pub – got very, very drunk – and then came back to where a lovely nest was ready for her – rocking chair and screens.
1.07.00 – need tissues.
1.08.10 – My grandmother’s tale.
1.10.30 – Funny smell? Bleeding
1.11.30 – Have to ask these questions. . .esp retained placenta
1.12.30 – amazing survival job.
1.13.00 – hair out – a body warning.
1.13.30 – Support so important for the mental health.
1.14.20 – no support for dads at all is there?
1.15.00 – what I would have done. .
Maybe seeing you x2 daily – MUST be sorted out – calm down – pull out cold – ingredients – on the body – salt/ suck a nut . . chicken broth – salted – and a sip will do . .
1.16.30 – paint iodine may help . .and ideally fixed prior to conception.
1.16.40 – Gloriavale people being in shock of not getting H.G. – 3 magic and WDCD
1.17.20 – Vit C needed for choleostasis.
1.17.55 – up and down to the loo – Ki energy upset –
1.18.30 – Panaxea Helicoix – for helicobacter – often almost all who have it – saukerkraat and gut bacteria and no sweet taste . .cold and raw – insult the spleen energy – and all falls down . .and also because heat in the body – getting dehydrated – and water drinking no easy . . management strategies needed – iodine topically – is a low thyroid symptom – pregnenlone – source hormone – hormonal mud map.
1.21.22 – not left in a great state for number 2 pregnancy.
1.21.30 – need to fix this . . at 20 weeks – need to do what is in WDCD and acu and herbs etc 1.22.40 – 23 weeks – baby dies . .could she have lived? Lack of Mag – toxaemia – pain – all of this. . all standing at everyone.
1.23.40 – usually first priority baby – but mum needs help here.
1.24.00 – individualised care from a useful acupuncturist – and she should have gotten to 36 weeks. . .
1.25.40 – several days after C section – cold not feel legs –
1.26.10 – burnt her somehow – catherizing – 50 cent piece large – that had to heal from the bottom out – and had to keep taking top off it.

Footage stopped pre-maturally.

THANK YOU MAJA!!

To all who watched, in listening you can understand
Why we are as clear personally as possible
Set intentions
Set agreements/boundaries
Charge a lot (more than all others) they get bang for buck
Why we set up the room,
Clear ourselves,
Have remedies to assist with what will come up.

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