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Whose birth is it?
Who is number one?
NOT MUM . . .
However – if she does not leave precious princess behind – there IS a problem . .
EASY BIRTH
Often people wonder why I put those two words together
It is supposed to be
Not a production number.
This person has achieved it – naturally –
We may wonder what is so different about her?
No early life trauma
Sacrum intact
These are the beginnings.
it always works . . . as you will all find – IF you actually trust the process and birth.
Here is a tale of two nearly ready to birth mamas. . Both intending a home birth – with the same midwife.
BUT – think top circle – I can’t influence that it is a middle circle relinquishing.
The bottom _ i work with nutritionally and structurally and the energy then shifting MAY pop mum into Jersey cow mi=ode.
Is needed. . OUT OF HEAD
MAMA #1 Past events
Previous births have been super fast:
#1, <8hrs labour, water birth. Midwife didn’t make the birth, arrived 20mins after. Placenta took 90mins. Born At 39 weeks gestation.
21 months later:
#2, 35min labour, lying down on my left side to slow it down (unsuccessfully) on my ensuite floor. No first stage of labour, it just went straight to second stage, bearing down and pushing baby out. A bit of a shock. Again, midwife didn’t make the birth, she arrived 50mins after the birth. Placenta took 90mins to come. Born At 37+3 weeks gestation. Then 14 months later (not planned, surprise-child)…
#3, 45min labour. Labour was very similar to #2, no first stage of labour, just straight to second stage, bearing down pushing out baby. Again, midwife didn’t make the labour – walked into the room as baby was born. Placenta took 2.5hrs hours to come. 3rd child was my smallest (2.17kgs / 4lb12oz) Born At 38+4 weeks gestation. Never experienced postpartum haemorrhage, bleeding is minimal.
She said – (I was funnily enough HERE in Bne to see her)
I’m now 39 weeks pregnant with our 4th child and could benefit from your help once again. This baby is currently in a diagonal, oblique position on my right, not engaged. Baby did turn to posterior for a few days but is now back to oblique. Despite having prodromal Labour pains for the past 4 weeks (since 35 weeks) it doesn’t feel like there’s been much progress. I’m having regular chiro to help loosen my pelvis, the muscles appear quite tight at the moment. Is there anything else you could suggest? I still have some moxibustion sticks, but not sure where / how to use them? All my babies have been born at home, so this baby will be my 4th homebirth.
Background – context is SOOO important
What has happened?
Look to Evie’s birth – that STUCK was STUCK in the house, room. mum and dad and very lucky I was there . .
ALWAYS – baby is part of mum – what happens to her happens to baby – not a separate entity . .
Thus – we calm mum.
(As Josi will attest when reading this).
GUARD YOUR HEART!!
I had a woman who had to identify her dead for several weeks in mid Bne summer brother’s body found at the back of a shopping centre – right on baby due time – she birthed AFTER all of the funeral etc settled own (drug addicted and noone knew where he was – still massive shock for her and her mum and family to deal with right on what is normally a happy time).
THUS – baby did not cone till all settled down . .
Another – young mum was a dairy farmer and told the baby to stay in till after calving she was in the driving rain and muddy paddocks till all hours – and baby – first – arrived – at 46 weeks – all fine .
We all need to stop trying to control the end results (bottom circle) by ignoring context.
(Middle circle and also WHY – the top circle.
This is why I developed that model = to sidestep the emotionality and go for what is REALLY in control – the ‘karma’/what we signed up for – and the biology – can it?
See all I have written in WDCD and the ancillary books – NOT obsess with the body current responses – as they are warnings – FIX IT
Always hydration and nutrition first.
ALWAYS – declutter.
Calm them . .
Body can work if you do – can’t and will still be silly if you do not.
THINK LIVER QI – has to flow – or . . .
Baby is responding to the trauma that has happened at home sister due to cme in from interstate to be there to support the family walked out as she is distressed at the (I think very reasonable) parenting – totally Christian/love/positive reinforcement based).
Sister has set the entire very close knit family against her. And her older 6 year old daughter is also now involved . .
Trojan horse time. .
Whilst she may have had baby ‘moved’ by the chiro – so what – as bigger things at play.
Much like with Josi’s 4 breech presentations – ask WHY?
All was going fine – baby perfect position – all ready as always for the stellar performance -then . .
BANG – explosion of STUCK and what to do – as she knows she has on top of all of this – the past 2 years of work distressed dad and what he does next PLUS what sister is not doing – being at home helping with kids – and instead has set a bomb off.
Whilst this is ‘First World Problem’ – it is her; sand massive . . .as usually all works as clockwork (with God’s help) at home. Husband who ALWAYS gets post natal depression – feels violated as his castle (unjabbed, he works from home) is being attacked – and he is not an Alpha male to start with . .
What I did
Ignored baby position – supposedly fixed (as if – see top and middle circle) by manual (bottom circle) means
Calmed her – was myself and offered insights . .
Pricklies mostly
Plus – shock (R St 24, Liv 2 . .
And so on – my usual workout.
Once they have gotten boundaries up – I could come again – but the work is not needles – not my stunning pelvic opening – she needs help with LIFE . .and she needs to undo what it means to her and to their family – and also come up with a plan for birthing and afterwards.She had a tight pelvis – and it was looser afterwards –
UNLESS she sorts this out – she is in trouble – is NOT a mechanical but a Qi flowing issue – see Ina May Gaskin’s work . .any of it.
First time mum
Steam before the session and again afterwards . .
‘Due’ now. I did my usual lead up .
Would be last few months – if working – every week – but as Zoe is being sensible- and looking after herself and nesting – not needed but ideally the weekly sessions from 36 weeks would have applied – I open the baby gate . .
All in one . .
Note we now see the underlying thyroid depletion (is SOOO MUCH BETTER than it was years ago)
And we see the Blood crack showing up
WHAT I DID
Checkers – Liv 14, 13, GB 25, O.S.L.
(I forgot to check diastasis – and could have to encourage better flow to womb)
Belly/lymph beginnings
Initially R St 24 – changed instantly the denser right side.
Liv 2 bilateral.
Also Bil Liv 14 (tender) L GB 24, R extra GB stone point.
Lymph and belly tending . .
Would have done cupping navel first – but none about – cool bum – belly – a bit
Started checking the O.S..L – is fine and not dense. She has been having great special chiro
On arising – she was looking taller.
Felt lighter
Off to loo and bent over stack of pillows – after the sacral wakeups –
5 x GB 30’s each side, sore sacral points, all 2nd run Bl yin and sore SI 11/9.
Coccyx work – as with sacrum – but deep – and as usual – this totally threw her into DEEP relaxation.
Needles out and the heavier sacral work – rechecked the coccyx and Miss Hortence’s points . .
Off to the loo.
Sitting on couch, for chest gouges – had not done till then – made a stunning difference to the neck she did not know was tight.
Flank gouges – to undo the pelvis – think route of the GB meridian . .
I always ask to move hips/pelvis – is always easier – and looser . .
Onto the floor . .
Me discovering/correcting the baby gate state . .
Vastly easier to use prickies as needed (no ‘diagnosis’ note).
Sore Bl 62, GV 1 and sore L Ki 10.
Even after the Mercier work – and sacral smash – was her favourite – she kept sinking in deeper.
The previously tense points released . .
O.S.L.never wavered from central – but the previously tight/hurting on pressure L Alcock’s canal (Miss H’s points) then released.
Milly is looking after mum
Happier tongue shows calmer body . .
STILL need to look at the Blood Depletion – crack – to ensure this is enhanced all through breastfeeding.
Zoe noticed that she looked totally different in the mirror.
Each time she hot up – was different.
Out of her bedroom floor – first comment – ‘The lights are on’.
Transforming all through the two hour session . .
PROJECT DAD
That book WAS named correctly – he is her rock – and epidural . .
He HAS to not just show up to watch – and this means all charts printed and studied
His pressure is way too light at this stage – it is obvious to me that the ideal of having a midwife – means they may feel that hey have a ‘pass out’. I can see that another session and the Heather ‘eye’ – is needed here.
As the midwife stands back and the ‘show’ is mum and dad. .
MAMA #2
Born at home yesterday afternoon, 16th Sept 2022, at 2.10pm Gestation 40+4. Weight 3.220kgs / 7pounds 1oz. Length 49cms Head circumference 34cms Midwife was present for the labour and birth!!