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Received today – a burning question. This is where I satrt all teaching – what is your;s ? we all have to face death at some point . .
“If you have any end of life pearls, I’d be appreciative. My dear friend is losing her daughter to cancer – 45 years old. I’ve been giving her palliative care for the last year while shes doing chemo. Colon-liver-everywhere. She was stable a few weeks ago, had a chemo treatment, and tanked suddenly. I just left her, skeletal, yellow, with her entire abdomen a solid hard tumor and her legs so swollen they are about to burst. What little acupuncture I did….i truly thought she left a couple times. Showed her mom, a soul sister of mine, some acupressure points, but really – I’m just touching random points so she feels like she’s doing something helpful. I’m going back in the morning….feeling utterly impotent.”
This is why I start all my students, whatever ‘modality’ of amount of time they have been in service, or what ever they have done in personal self discovery themselves – back into what I called Selfing – the empty cup analogy
There is a Touchie and a Birthie and a Pricklie stream to my work.
My first website in 1999 was to showcase what wads missing in my patients’ lives – meditation and the need to calm the mind.
Sleep better, let go, stop running an attack mode and generally tidy up their own clarity. From there, I found when working with acupuncturist mainly – there was a huge hole where women’s business would sit. Also elder medicine- as we become crones. we have much to hand down – if we have listeners.
We have the tapestry of all our lives – and we all hold a thread. We all have magic to weave in.
Maybe you will find parts that you have missed up until now – or ways to contribute for yourself – already found.
What to do to answer above?
I said – we are the first patients – the one to die – we all will – preparation – may need death doula-ing.
Especially for the ones left behind.
Possibly in these times, more helpful than birth doula-ing.
Also more needed as people are suddenly expiring or going off with unheard of issues – and ages.
And the stillbirth, loss of fetal life, miscarriage rates. .
The mum is left. Dad and siblings and all – does our culture do death well? No. Did your acupuncturist course give you training?
It may have been clearer on safe subjects – Chinese language, research methodology and so on.
We as parents tend to take life upon ourselves – maybe if. . . . .
No – this is part of being a person – everything goes through a Bell curve in Jing. What we came here for and did we do it?
We do not know how long we signed up for
How do we cope?
By knowing boundaries well.
By staying true and aligned in ourselves. . FIRST
As well as specific snippets of what to do to others in clinic, (TOOLS) we also need to grow within – SELFING – so life is less likely to also take us out.
Back to the immediate . .
Us – we have to be able to cope – with whatever walks in, as a story. Maybe start with a free online course. Many tools are found there. One being the guided mediation Reunion, with the graphics as a new mum was dying. She did – when the daughter I had helped her conceive after several miscarriages, carry to term, birth normally and then go downhill – she was hospitalised for depression (!) Medicos took ages to X-ray her hip to shut her up. She was busy dying. I was that one who stood in for a death doula, as it was inevitable. . We all have many stories. We all have different tool sets – this may help you.
Reiki – it is a great way to work when needles are no linger appropriate.
Being present and being real . .
Having a paradigm shift.
Why here, why now and what is still to be achieved.
A woman contact me with 2 days to live. She got 3 1/2 weeks more as I pulled out all stops. She had a connected and useful death. She grew past what she had been avoiding with a lot of extra helpers I found for her – as well as the considerable common sense I brought to the event. It is important to see we are so much more than the physical and the energy grids -and people come to us for our and their growth.
Specifically – what do WE do? Change point of reference to be soul centred. New paradigm
By growing, as this work must call us to – either directly by our lives, or we get in first and live like this – so those who need someone can find us.
I offer mentoring as we all need options – and being so busy fixing others = we may have forgotten – we are here for us first.
All levels. Hence – I developed the Selfing online and with other teachers who have been involved in this work for years with me. To be part of – work in concert with the practitioner work. We can go on into Self Discovery – making “Friends With the Mother Within” (all the programming we were exposed to) and then “Making Peace With the Children We Have Had/Not Had” – as being a child in the world not prepared or imagined, being a parent – and then being here now – all need unpacking – for us to assist others – as we all work our that all sickness is home sickness. Emotional unexpressed, stuck or missing flows. All we can do is dust people off and let them make their own choices. “Remembering Soul Mission – why are we here now”