FIRST – DO NO HARM TO THE CHILDREN – LOOK AFTER THEIR MOTHERS
Having lived as a woman, a mother, a grandmother, and as a natural health detective, course designer, writer, teacher, and mentor in many health aligned modalities, I attempt to encourage all to live within the bounds of what we are gifted. A life in a mammalian wrapper, as the carrier of the Light within. You have likely been gifted a woman’s body – or were made inside one. Honouring women’s bleeding is needed – respect for life givers.
BIOLOGY – what runs it
I am ignoring the non duality conversation as we go with the biological blueprint
The physical life of a woman expressed in linear fashion – her seven year cycles as she travels through time – aging
The body- the bottom circle below- has electrics and mechanics. In order to live well, all has to be in order.
We may ask – who is”I”? What part of you is reading, listening, hearing these words, pondering on the concepts?
The mind likely – also the part of you that may have directed you into this work.
The part of you that is not spoken of – but directs the entire life is your soul and its script.
The part thinking forms the personality cage.
Ego/mind – the structure that all know as being ‘you’.
That you is carried around in the physical body that you are unable to separate from.
Whilst this may seem too deep: philosophical even,
These questions plays a part later when we wonder what set us up – as it seems as though often we are playing a script.
Life enhancement – by following the seasons of life
Structure Determines Function – Body Remembers Everything That Has Happened To It – Energy Follows Thought – Flows Have to Flow.-
Body Heals Itself – if there are NO BLOCKAGES – Heather’s Gentling Ways restores all to as blueprint – where possible.
Following nature by ensuring the pillars of life – nutrition and safety on all levels are met. Life recipe . . (and see below) all beings need. . .
Those who know that Nature is the master here – know that the rules of life MUST be followed.
What are they?
Seasons of a day, of a month, of a year, and of a life
LIFE – we arrive on this plane safe in a mother’s body, to begin to grow, mature and exit into our own life capsule into independent breathing in a body
In time the personality being formed is able to engage in the human world, having first worked out how to live in a body and to negotiate expectations.
We choose to express what we feel, or are shut down, we flow into being our own person, or hide in discord, we grow as we learn how to be here.
External constraints may be actual or imagined. How a society molds its members may be accepted or rejected by the one who has arrived to do WHAT?
1 – Easy beginnings:
Biology. . orderly progression through the stages of life – a Bell Curve – from dependence, back into dependence, through living a productive life
1 – gaseous exchange to run the biochemistry – needed (breathing),
2- hydration to allow the inner sea to do its job of coursing electrolytes here and there, minerals, vitamins and the messages needed to allow the intricate body to run as life requires. and safety to expand into the space allotted for all – independence of thought and action.
3 – Safety to allow the state of being to perform as designed – in harmonious stability. To sleep, eat and be in peace.
4 – Outdoors – is where the world awaits – the physical environment in nature to support life as it is – seasonal, dynamic real.
5 – Touch – as primates, grooming and oxytocin blasts needed for social cohesion – constant being in harmony with the tribe a necessity as the lineage and life positions shift constantly.
6 – Reason for being: soul purpose of life and its unfolding – to give a reason for being aside from physically and socially having a place to land and be.
7 – Nourishment – of the soul to allow the expression of the Light that is to be shared in this time and place, for the individual for their continued growth.
8 – Nourishment of the heart – to have an expended beingness, sharing with others to =he joy of living – life happily humming, singing.
9 – Nourishment of the body and the ingredients needed for an easy life freely absorbed for maximum experience of the unfolding of the Jing – life capital and its plans.
The process of optimal maturation depends on the strength of the food factory and its ability to function to provide what is needed for life.
Dr John F Shen, (one of my masters in learning how to be a critical thinker via the East Asian body awareness, seen as acupuncture and herbalism), discovered life truths working as he was, as part of a family lineage stretching back into antiquity. He used his powers of observation, as an apprentice from the age of 6 years in the family healing business. Having spent the past 45 years attempting to prove him wrong in clinic ad in life – I cannot. .
Crucial times in a life
The closer to conception, the more vulnerable life is. Any contamination/perversion of life force is devastating, but somewhat less so as you travel in that body in time/’age’. Thus – when you mess with maternity, you are destroying what could have been as the blueprint is not to be Bonsa’ed.
Dr Shen also divided the life of the woman’s body into times when Jing was in transition
1 – Menarche, periods begin (Blood and Qi are full and ready to go (puberty in boys – 2 x 8 + 16 years),
2 – Marriage – (now onset of sexuality). In times past a huge dislocation – as the tribes needed fresh blood. girls were removed, taken elsewhere to begin again usually as the chattel until she produced sons, but still – as a slave often. (Likely in tribal cultures, the strongest, bravest survived initiation).
3 – Pregnancy – as the body is remaking itself as well as growing another person, and
4 – Menopause – as the body shifts gear into being productive in different forms – not tied into creating new lives from her own.
What do we see as a ‘person’?
What may get in the way? Feeling safe. (especially the younger the more vulnerable the being is – hence mothering is a sacred task). All mammals are fiercely protective. Being grown in love is needed to be adequately human and humane. and appropriate orderliness – the rhythms of sleep and awakening, filling the day with purposeful activities
2 – Easy periods – a girl becomes a woman – Jing unfolding and being used in/as ‘a life’
Jing? How we use it determines the quality life we live
Hormones? Whilst the recent bio medically orientated observers speak of these body messengers, hormones are a gift of the Kidney energy overseeing the ways a body may travel through the stages of life. Jing and Liver Qi working in cohoots to create the optimal ways to achieve easy living as a woman. . When the body energy is less focused upon growing the physical unit, the attention turns to baby making. The blossoming maiden explores being woman.
I am purposefully ignoring the male constructed hormonal model, as it provides a vested interest retail opportunity, rather than explaining how the body makes these messengers, and how to repair their balance. By not addressing what upset the balance, no assistance (past synthetic lookalike hormones) is given to those who find that their moods, their cycles, and their lives all hurt. Eventually entire body malfunctions may result. Whilst ‘out of order’, we need to investigate what took out normal. To understand how to put the train back on the tracks, we must undo what derailed it. The biological blueprint is clear – seven year cycles, orderly progression through the life phases, following the daily, the lunar, the life cycles – what is wrong?
Biology – Normal menstruation is an indicator that the Qi and Blood were produced and circulated appropriately. The monthly shedding of the baby nest not used is called ‘a period’. Past the essential unfurling of the physical vehicle, maturation into possible reproductive unit is signaled by the so called secondary sexual characteristics, (as her body has excess Blood allowing the periods to begin) so her body is readying to grow others. Digestion and circulation of the nutrients needed to allow blossoming are required and when in an orderly way they allow the seven year cycles run the female form. In becoming a woman, the awakening and expression of Jing shows as a progression through the unfolding of seed to adult. Potential baby nests are stored monthly – ready for action. Optimal cycling happens when all her systems are in order. Her fetal palace fills and empties, . She feels well and sovereign. FEELINGS govern this – not the end results – the hormones (messengers). Periods arriving with no life disruption, no regular headaches, pimples, gut disorders, pain or over bleeding show as an easy life ahead. Her body at 7 x 2 is on its way to being adult size: her head hair and other indicators of mating capability abound. She is ripe. Biologically she is giving out messages. BUT – is she safe? What may have upset her sense of order?
What may get in the way?
LIFE – as now lived, Biology and its template may not progress as expected. At every stage.
The poisoning of the biosphere is ignored, expectations that the orderliness of life itself, independent of the
3 – Easy sexual expression
Biology – sex feels good. Most girls hopefully discover their personal sexual gratification singularly, as an expression of their Liver Qi. Sex for one. The Liver lines of energy travel through the female body, lighting up with attention and release. The liberation of orgasm, the body is fulfilled. The STUCKNESS that may happen as the girl is damaged in this enterprise may thwart her development. As the Kidney Yang gets its lights turned on – the clitoris may drive her – and as such – she needs to know safety within this container. – did the maid wish for the attention? was she ready for the interference? Did it feel overwhelmingly good? Biologically maybe – socially – likely in peril.
What may get in the way?
Likely – a lot. And swept away as ‘never mind’. BUT there comes a time when the body says ‘NO!’ and means it.
4 – Easy fertility
Biology – sex makes babies. Any time of the month. With a fertile man, there is no time including periods, that is safe – as most women in times past discovered – babies relentless arrive. Life wants to make more. How is it this is now longer so? Sex was dangerous. Now trying to conceive is so likely?
Farmers know – their livelihood depends on perfect offspring, healthy productive breeding units – be they plants or sentient beings – perfect is needed. In nature the stud is picked by circumstance. Fighting over mating rights, the winner taking all.
Easy fertility is a product of easy periods, easy sexuality (her heart and her body/wombspace are communicating happily), and the man is well and able.
What may get in the way?
In current human societies, this is not seemingly taken into account – leading into the quandry of nature apparently not heard as she says “NO’ and middle men are added in. Perhaps go back to easy periods and the need for a healthy gut and life from both parents – to – be?
5 – Easy pregnancy – life continues, (as with all beings) – she makes another
Biology – only the strongest make it. Pregnancy is the intended continuation of the period. A baby is ‘caught’ and grows. The five imbalances needed to be well in pregnancy – assuming her state of balance prior – from easy periods to easy fertility into easy pregnancy – as long as the man fathering is a well unit – with sperm that is unusual in these days – clean, fast swimming and urged on by the currents of nature’s surges into being. . Pregnancy should have no symptoms past the missing period, as the baby nest is being used as designed. There may be no other indication, except a swelling breasts as they turn towards mother preparation. The imbalances needed for a well pregnancy?
1 – An increase in Blood – as the sea of life,
2 – An increase of Heat – as her body ramps itself in to busy mode, progesterone (evidence of Kidney Yang Qi working well) protects the pregnancy.
3 – An increase of Damp due to the swelling of life and exuberance within
4 – An increase in Liver energy as the new project is springing into life and
5 – A decrease in the maternally available Kidney energy as all efforts are directed at making anew home and a new person.
Mum is likely feeling slower and yet more vital.
What may get in the way?
Nothing if she shuts off the world and its busyness – none of what it says matters as she grows her wonder. and lives as a Jersey cow. – living breathing biology, allowing expansion of all aspect do her self perception to grow herself into mother. All that life needs her to be is her baby’s bridge into life. No micromanaging, testing, worries, and external concerns are needed.
6 – Easy birth – mum as
Biology – as with a rose bud, full to bursting, no more room: emergence. Pelvis opens, easily born baby, easily mothered, easily loved
Trust nature and your body – all is well when you are – see above. Life looks after itself. Nature doe snot set you up to lose.
Fear has no place here – live simply and work on getting enough sleep, rest and play, plus the ingredients needed to rebuild yourself.
What may get in the way?
‘Assistance’ that is not maternal/baby bonding centred.
7 – Easy maternity – women are life givers
Biology – survival of a species depends on mum and her safety. Bonding intact, mammalian maternity turned into easy natural living as the blueprint demands. No interventions needed, past a supportive tribal experience where mum is looked after at least for the 40 days, in other cultures, several months, as there is only so much a mum can do – and making milk, and looking after baby is a never ending process, taking all her resources.
What may get in the way?
The standard Western approach which values women and their contribution as only useful when supplying their energy for $$
Women need to be primally bonded, babies are safe then. The entire human experience is best loved up.
Without an easy start to life, being loved and maternally supported, no child can be expected to be sustainable.
8 – Easy babies: Easy life – for all
Biology – From a naturally easy life, more springs forth. Appropriate nutrition, and a future involving open heartedness allows the best life possible. To mature into the easy person who CAN replicate successfully, we must have regularity, safety and orderliness for the Jing and the Blood to be produced and to circulate well.
What may get in the way?
As above
Mother Nature must be heeded
SOCIAL – WE ARE NOT ISLANDS
None of us can exist alone. Even polar bears have brief encounters for mating purposes. At the top of the ‘food pyramid’ they live in competition for resources. Mum is still the bridge for life. All bears. Wolves are pack animals – united they stand. Lions – are also headed up by the dominant male and are not safe as life is about eat or be eaten.
Herd animals – are safest in large numbers. As humans we seem to have forgotten. Past biology, as though it is minor, optional even. Have forgotten that as primates, we do best in social groupings, where touch and common bonds anchor us.
The loosening of these ties have meant that all are adrift, and depending upon status, (wealth in financial terms) usually dictates this. As women’s lives are run by biology, in all cultures the men can easily dominate. They are build larger, thus physically stronger. They are not taken out in the reproductive exercises. Making babies, tending them when dependent, is a large investment for the mother and the tribe who now – can choose or not – to support her. Looking at the average wild herd (or any mammals), the males were held in check. The strongest was the winner – till his energy left as age took him out: Bell curves everywhere. Now men seem to have no direction. Where are the initiations and secret men’s business? taken to behaviours that are not life friendly. Now, instead of going off to war as a group, they war individually, with no hierarchy to anchor them.
Elephants have a system that works – the matriarch rules, and the adolescent males are chased away – to live their own survival instincts. The strongest come back to mate – usually not with their bloodline – and life goes on. Males get to fight to the death, or be eaten. Or thrive: ALONE.
BEING WOMAN – tidal beings
Hormones are NOT the driver – our feelings – and before this – our sense of self, is. We are NOT biology only. We are not a social being only either. We are a soul infused personality: we live in a mammalian body to be here briefly experiencing being human on this plane, together at this time of rapid change. The rules that may have driven the myriad cultures in the past are now displaced, as the tribal members are. In times past led by religious beliefs, less likely to bind all as they move away from where these were a system of life or death. Options apparently abound within separation/displacement.
With no one seemingly in charge, perhaps it is time for those who are called – to awaken?
Are we driven by biology? Hormones? or – a spark from within?
Perhaps it is time to step back and change perceptions?
We are all of the Light – and may have forgotten, so entangled in the daily survival : NOT living in and with nature
Who/what runs us?
Survival of the fittest was the biological imperative. As humans, we are safest in groups – but is the group consciousness now safe for anyone but WHO as we may be seen to be overlorded and need to escape from what is NOT biological, but anti life. In today’s world, the retail industries set up to milk off what was working, are ignoring the ongoing outcomes of their interventions. Herd/tribe/family/species sustainability is misplaced/lost in the efforts to create financial wealth for few. Thus in control. Seemingly playing ‘god’.
Social wealth was/is cohesion and interdependence, not dependence. Life is transitory. Welfare, no effort needed – this is not sustainable.
Who pays? Being a primate, social standing and order denotes the safety afforded by the group, and living by the rules in strict pecking order. Touching and being included in the group, or in deep trouble as safety is in numbers. In nature, social survival is dependent on status: power and connections, determining pecking order and thus accessibility to the best. Included, or excluded. Is anyone truly at peace with their being here? Happy even?
In human lives, order and reliability of everything is needed for stability. This is generally the interface of an inner war – of individuals raging against agreeing, or being in conflict with self and the inner light and reasons for being here. Seasons of wisdom maybe? Some are driven by the current social rules, attempting to ‘be good’/included. They may mindlessly follow the lifepath set out – traveling from ‘A’ to ‘B’ seemingly directionless. Others, following life phases, until they awaken. BUT – how if the rules dictate being under the thrall of external forces?
Where is mammalian maternity now? The process of becoming adult comes with it the choice now of stepping into parenting.
Keeping the tribe intact, or branching out is no longer an option, but expected – SELF ONLY. BUT solo mums have little status or protection. .
Living a mammal’s life. all is provided, as making babies, and in a herd/tribe. keeping the troop safe allows species survival
In today’s world, we may feel as though we are on our own. We may feel lost. We could ask for assistance – from beyond.
We may need to ponder what is the point of life?
Biologically and thus socially, as we travel through the decades, the life phases, we gain responsibilities and take on roles.In the past – as a logical progression happened with the Bell curve of usefulness – to the clan. We were dependent until we took our place being productive and protective. Where has thus gone? In a less tribal society this is replaced by money made to pay for the rights to breathe and live comfortably. become less child iike – (OR DO WE?) he gradual accumulation of social responsibilities as the adult world beckons. The phernomes signal a woman’s biological breeding readiness: obvious to the marauding males. Mammals signal reproductive times through smell – and the males fight over dominance to mate.
SEXUALITY – BUT – socially – was she ‘allowed?’ Was she ‘gotten to’ prior? Early grooming? All of this comes into hope she has periods that are awry – and ‘hormones’ are NOT the answer – but the reaction she has as she is hurting – in non physical ways,. Who cares? This is the crux. or was she after validation, touch and possibly live? These are social constraints and mess entirely with he future if she puts a step wrong – or finds herself in the wrong place. She carries a huge burden – ans if her sovereignty is broached, she may carry this forever after, NOT hormonal – but Liver Qi outraged – showing up as all the ‘neurotic’ behaviours that are outrage renamed.
THE REALITY OF BEING WOMAN
Overwhelmingly that which ‘we know’ – culture/social programming – this is written of, and by men, their lenses, and for men to make sense of what they get up to. ‘Modesty’ and lack of information, mean most girls if kept ‘safe’ from predation are still not safe. Porn and internet are determining ‘reality’. Their own relationship to their own sense of pleasure, their own body and its sovereignty, their unique place in the world – celebrated at first bleed, taken aside to learn responsibilities and rights, needs and roles, in a word where being woman is seen as a thing, not a valued gift. Her own pleasure may have been discovered clandestinely – who is giving a reasoned and respectful voice to this?
We are all (male and female) more than our bits, and what biology has in store. I say this here as few are writing of having grown up being girls, maturing into their initially singular sexual pursuits. Boys and their testosterone fueled machine – are to be followed it would seem. . TIME FOR CHANGE
What may get in the way?
Sovereignty groomed out – from before birth as the medical model into roboticized workers being spat out the education machine may be seen a staking precedence over the human bonding.
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